Core Belief Engineering
By Lisa Sidorowicz, B.A., M.A., B.Ed., Certified Practitioner and Instructor
Are You Living Your Parents' Core Beliefs?
We live in a sea of beliefs. Everywhere we turn, we are presented with different beliefs systems to consider: how to think, what to feel, what to say, how to look, what's right, what's wrong, how to live, etc. The sheer volume of beliefs can be overwhelming. As adults, we have the ability to choose which information to believe. As children, we unquestioningly adopted many of the beliefs and emotional patterning of our parents, siblings, friends, and teachers. These core beliefs formed our foundational view of reality and became entrenched in our subconscious. As adults, we have grown consciously and chronologically, but some of our subconscious core belief systems may have remained suspended in their child states. These outdated core beliefs may still be stubbornly and faithfully replicating our childhood patterns and defense mechanisms, limiting our happiness and success.
Consider the relentless barrage of belief systems to which we are exposed on a daily basis in our information society. A myriad number of powerful messages are delivered to us from a variety of sources in direct and subtle ways: from the negativity and disaster-mentality of the news, to the mono-culture of television programs; from fear-based advertising to the "butter today, margarine yesterday" claims of medical science. We are taught to believe that the world is a dangerous place, that money is happiness and youth is beauty, that what we do is who we are, that we always require something external to improve our lives. We are frightened into needing and marketed into wanting. The pervasive belief systems of our society, culture, religion, and gender become interlaced and create a veritable web of clashing, contradictory messages. Fortunately as adults, we can sift through the layers of contrasting information and separate what we believe from what we are constantly being told to believe, think, be, do, and want. We can choose what to adopt and what to reject.
As children, however, we absorbed the belief systems around us like sponges. The beliefs, concepts of reality, patterns, and emotional programming of our parents and siblings was the air we breathed, the soil in which we grew. Having limited life experience, we relied on what others believed, thought, and felt to give us a solid platform from which we could make sense of the world. As a result, our reality was a composite of other people's contrasting beliefs and views of reality that we did not question.
In addition to being sponges, we also formed conclusions from our limited perspective as children. If we grew up in a conflicted family environment, we may have concluded that happiness is impossible, that the world is a dangerous place, that other people can't be trusted. We may also have held ourselves responsible for other people's negative reactions. For instance, we may have blamed ourselves when our parents were unhappy. When they disapproved of us, we may have assumed that it was because we were not good enough or smart enough. If we were judged and criticised, we may have believed that we are unworthy and inadequate, that there must be something wrong with us. As children, we did not question these conclusions.
Based on our inherited beliefs, our conclusions, and our observations, we quickly determined what behaviour would get us love, attention, and security. Some of us learned to repress our true self to be loved, to hamper our creativity so as not to compete, to suppress our spontaneity and playfulness so as not to annoy. Trying to be seen and not heard, we may have learned to silence our spirit, to be good, to please others, to not cause waves. And thus were formed our deepest core beliefs about ourselves, life, other people, our worth, etc. These core beliefs became embedded in our subconscious mind, solidifying our foundational view of reality.
As adults we have gained life experience, knowledge, self-awareness, and the ability to question and analyse, yet our lives may still be negatively affected by the complex, layered subconscious belief systems formed during childhood. Evidence of limiting core beliefs include irrational reactions, negative repetitive patterns, phobias, compulsions, depression, alternating feelings of guilt, shame or anxiety, feeling stuck or blocked, low-self worth, self-sabotage, etc. Despite having consciously reconsidered many of our foundational beliefs, many of us are still hampered by our subconscious adherence to them. Years of therapy, meditation, reading, analysis and affirmations have strengthened our conscious awareness but may not have effected lasting change at the subconscious level.
There is good news! Limiting subconscious beliefs, no matter how firmly entrenched, can be changed. Our core beliefs are at the root of our thoughts, feelings, choices, reactions, patterns, and behaviours. Our core beliefs are at the root of our pain, our stagnation, our low self-esteem, our self-sabotage. If we change our beliefs, we can change our reality. Core Belief Engineering (CBE) is an extremely effective results-based belief change technology that helps individuals identify and change outdated core belief systems hardwired in the subconscious at the root of depression, anxiety, fear, abuse, shame, helplessness, uncontrollable reactions, low self-worth, codependency, self-destructive behaviours, etc. In day-long sessions (anywhere from 4 to 8 hours per session), individuals re-engineer subconscious belief systems they no longer agree with, so that their subconscious and conscious mind can work in harmony to create the life they choose today. Clients resolve contradictions within the subconscious, and experience feelings of inner strength and supportiveness. Most people report dramatic change and improved self-esteem within just a few sessions, while other more embedded conditions take longer. In addition to solving the problem, CBE sessions empower people to get to know their true self and become partners with their subconscious. Sessions result in expanded consciousness, more confidence, easier management of emotions, intellect and intuition, and more self-trust, respect and love.
As adults, we have the ability to choose what we believe. By addressing outdated subconscious childhood belief systems, we can align our subconscious and conscious minds and resolve inner conflict. Once this has been achieved, we are free to live according to our own beliefs. True, lasting change is possible!